With Him are the keys of the unknown (mafatih al-ghaib), none but He knows them. (Al-An’am: 59)
Sometimes I feel like I am being guided in a direction that I don’t want to go. Not because I feel danger but mostly because I feel it will be too new and unknown for me to cope with. I want to keep things the way they are because I can control it – or so I think. I try to fight my Qadr, but you can’t can you? Even trying just makes your life harder than it needs to be. Placing all of your trust in Allah Subhana wa ta3ala will surely ease your life.
But it is possible that ye dislike a thing which is good for you, and that ye love a thing which is bad for you. But Allah knoweth, and ye know not. (Al Baqarah: 216)
Sometimes we worry about making decisions for our future, we feel scared;
“I don’t want to move to a new city – I won’t know anyone”
“I love this guy and although he’s not treating me right I don’t want to break up with him because I might not find another”
“I hate this job, but I’m worried I won’t find a better one”
When we look back after some time of having made the change, we may smile or laugh and say:
“What was I worried about? It wasn’t so difficult after all!”
Having recently left a stable job, which I wasn’t happy with and had wanted to leave for some time, I found this to be especially true. The fear of going it alone as a consultant when I wasn’t really that sure I would succeed gave me many a sleepless night. I thought and I worried and I decided against it and I became unhappier and less productive until I did what I should have done from the start. I made Istikharah.
“And He provides for him from (sources) he never could imagine. And if any one puts his trust in Allah, sufficient is ((Allah)) for him. For Allah will surely accomplish his purpose: verily, for all things has Allah appointed a due proportion.” (Al Talaq: 3)
Allah opened the doors; he opened them wide and showed me in no unclear terms that I needed to leave. I still didn’t know what would happen after leaving, but it was clear. I decided to trust in Allah, He spoke to my heart and He told me what I needed to do so I knew that no matter what happened I would be ok. In the past I had found it so hard to resign and stick to my decision, but this time it was all too easy.
“I’m leaving. Goodbye.”
That was my destiny. Alhamdulillah
“Our lives are predestined yet we have free will.”
How can we have free will if our lives are already predestined? The only conclusion I have come to so far is that since Allah is not restricted by time and he created us, he already knows what we will do using the freewill He has given us and it has been written in a book. So in this life, in the time sphere in which we live, it might not all have happened yet but Allah knows when we will be born, what we will think, do, say and when we will die. Allah is the knower of all things, Al Alim.
So it’s all predestined and we know and believe this, but when going through life, we must still think, reflect and use the Quran and Sunnah to guide us to the right way. We will be accountable for our actions since it was our decision to make them; our successes and failures are a result of our own making.
Success is not always a good thing. Sometimes when we succeed we fail to remember Allah and that our success is a part of his blessing, his favour on us. During all success, we should remember that we got there using freewill, but we were guided by Allah. Allah is the guider. Al-Hadi
Failure is not always a bad thing. There could be something better than we ever imagined waiting around that unknown corner and I think we sometimes need to feel failure as a reminder. We are not infallible. Allah is the giver of all. Al-Wahhab
“No misfortune can happen on earth or in your souls but is recorded in a decree before We bring it into existence: That is truly easy for Allah. In order that ye may not despair over matters that pass you by, nor exult over favours bestowed upon you. For Allah loveth not any vainglorious boaster” (Al Hadid: 22/23)
So this leads to possibly another aspect of predestination, in that while we make our choices, Allah has allowed us to do so within the frame of his overall plan.
“But you cannot will unless Allah wills; Allah is All-Knowing, All-Wise.” (Al-Insan: 30).
And let’s not forget the Shaytan; a clear enemy for us whose only intention is to lead us astray.
“Verily Satan is an enemy to you: so treat him as an enemy. He only invites his adherents that they may become Companions of the Blazing Fire.” (Al Fatir: 6)
But Allah is also the most merciful. Al Rahim
“On no soul doth Allah Place a burden greater than it can bear. It gets every good that it earns, and it suffers every ill that it earns” (Al Baqarah 286)
I wonder sometimes if I waste too much time analysing and second guessing things. Sometimes I ask myself “Why don’t you just accept? Why don’t you just trust?” But isn’t this where free will comes into play? You have two roads to choose; the left or the right. If I just close my eyes and walk, mightn’t I find it was wrong and have no one to blame but myself because I didn’t use the mind that Allah gave me to make choices and decisions? I didn’t try to understand what each road had to offer. It doesn’t mean I don’t trust in Allah Subhana wa ta3ala, I still have faith that he will guide me in the right way, but I can think too can’t I and shouldn’t I? How can I receive Allah’s guidance if I don’t think?
If I analyse first I would then be able to say I made my decisions with the best intentions. Closing my eyes and walking is the cowardly way. Not wanting to be accountable for my choice. So I could say if things went wrong “well it was all predestined anyway, I didn’t have any choice in the matter”. But according to my conclusion, I did have a choice. I chose not to think and therefore the outcome is still of my own doing.
Analysing and making my decisions based on the best of my knowledge and I still make a mistake, I can say with a clean heart that I made the wrong choice, but I learned from it and when I reach the next road I can use what I learnt. If at each road I close my eyes and walk blindly I will never learn anything. I will never know what lead me to that road. Why my legs went left instead of right. I will never have valuable experiences (good and bad) to refer to in the future.
Analysing and making my decisions based on the best of my knowledge means as I get older I may become wiser, make less wrong choices and be able to advise others who will face the same roads I did.
I may never know what would have happened if I took the other road, but at least I will know what lead me to the road I did take. I can use this the next time.
When I was younger, I spent a lot of time lamenting my choices. I was always an analyser, yet I would frequently use my head and ignore the whispers of my heart. Even when my heart was screaming I used to ignore it too. I would know I was making a wrong choice, but would do it anyway. I didn’t know how I knew I was making the wrong choice; I didn’t have faith and guidance, I was not a Muslim, not an active Christian and probably just plain young and foolish. But even then, my heart spoke to me as I’m sure it does to us all. If only we would listen.
After making my decision, against my better judgement, when the proverbial s*** hit the fan I would cry to God … “Why God did You make this happen to me? What did I do so wrong in my life that You would make me go through this? If only, if only……..”
“When trouble toucheth a man, He crieth unto Us (in all postures) – lying down on his side, or sitting, or standing” (Yunus: 12)
It was always God’s fault, never mine.
I was wrong.
“Whatever misfortune happens to you is because of the things your hands have wrought, and for many (of them) He grants forgiveness.” (Al Shura: 30)
I knew deep down it wasn’t God’s fault.
“If only, if only……”
The unfinished cry. The unfinished recognition. My heart had spoken to me. I ignored it. Allah is Merciful. If only I understood.
But I learnt from this. I learnt to follow my heart. If something doesn’t feel right then I leave it, take the other road, I try my hardest not to regret anymore, because I know that my experiences are priceless. They made me wiser and stronger. If it wasn’t for those choices I wouldn’t be where I am today.
My cries to God eventually led me into the fold of his deen. Islam. Now I understand better and I always try to remember:
“Allah does not change a people’s lot unless they change what is in their hearts” (Ar Rad 11)
I’m not proud of my mistakes, but I repented for them and Allah loves the one who turns to him in repentance.
“One who sincerely repents of his sin is as if he had never committed it. When Allah loves one of His servants, his sins do not harm him. Then he recited the verse: ‘Assuredly, Allah loves the oft-repentant and those who always seek to purify themselves.’” Hadith
My dua’a
Ya Allah, I seek Your forgiveness for my sins and turn to You sincerely repentant,
I pray you will keep me steadfast in my vow and help me remain penitent,
Please help me to see the wrong I do, by constant self interrogation
So I may be protected from my own error and deviation
Your mercy and blessings will provide me with peace and tranquillity
I kneel before You Ya Rabb, my heart filled with humility
I hope Insha’Allah my ultimate destiny is paradise.
With Him are the keys of the unknown (mafatih al-ghaib), none but He knows them” (Al-An’am: 59)
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